My sister-in-law has endometriosis

Five days ago, on the same day I got bad news from my ultrasound, my sister-in-law had an emergency laparoscopy for a 6cm ovarian cyst. I didn’t find out til my Ma called, two days later. Ma still doesn’t really understand what all a pelvic laparoscopy involves, but she did go over and see her daughter-in-law to help out, since she only lives a mile away.

I gave my sis-in-law a call Saturday morning, and we talked about the surgery and how recovery is going for her. Apparently while under the knife, the doctor found endometriosis and ablated what he could. She still doesn’t know what stage of endo she is at – she says the doctor talked to my brother (her husband) after the surgery. It kills me that my brother never shares what he’s told, even with his own wife…in this case about her own body. I dunno, maybe the doctor didn’t stage her. Mine just told me I was ‘moderate’ and I had to go back and confirm whether she meant ‘stage III’ or not (she did).
We talked about endometriosis, and how this unexpected label might affect her from here on out. She never thought she had endo – she knew the first day of her period was always very bad, “but not like what you go through”, she told me.

You know, I really am uncomfortable with all the women who have pelvic pain who tell me, “but it’s not like what you go through.” Here is a woman who was diagnosed with the same condition as me for cryin’ out loud, so how can she still sit there and say, “but not like what you go through”?
I had to remind her that her pain is very real and valid, and it doesn’t matter if she can work through it or has to take time off work for it, even for one day, it’s still bad pain and NOT NORMAL.

I haven’t been able to feel that anyone out there has really understood that, yet.

She’s hoping she won’t have any further pain or complications, and that the ovarian cysts won’t happen again. She declared herself all fixed up and good to go. I rejoiced with her, because I want to think that she and the doctor is right.

Her own mother had a string of pelvic surgeries for chronic pain and complications in the 1980s, and ended up getting a hysterectomy years before menopause. Here’s hoping the same does NOT happen to her daughter.

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